Total pages in book: 80
Estimated words: 78466 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 392(@200wpm)___ 314(@250wpm)___ 262(@300wpm)
Estimated words: 78466 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 392(@200wpm)___ 314(@250wpm)___ 262(@300wpm)
Jory: I don’t see any way around a very long, drawn-out talk. Since your divorced friends don’t get along, if you want them both in your life, you’re going to have to make time for both couples. They need support and love, they need to be nice to each other for the sake of their kids, and they need to know that you’re there for them equally and without judgment.
Sam: Uh, no. There is judgment, and it’s for the nice lady who got cheated on. Her scumbag, douchebag ex gets to go find new friends.
Jory: Sam—
Sam: No. He cheated on her AND he gets to keep his circle of friends intact? I call bullshit.
Jory: Sam, there should be room for both of them in the lives of their friends.
Sam: No. He was in the wrong, so guess what; he gets to go make new friends. And maybe his new fiancée has awesome friends, but I doubt it.
Jory: Why?
Sam: She’s a cheater too. She knew she was sleeping with a married man, and either her friends were, like, we hate what you’re doing but we love you, so we’ll support your decision or they didn’t give a shit.
Jory: Or they didn’t know.
Sam: I call bullshit on that because we both know, your friends always figure that shit out.
Jory: Okay, so we’re going with one of those two scenarios.
Sam: Which means that they knew and were supportive or knew and were, like, screw the wife, she’s an idiot and gets what she deserves. Neither of those options are people I want to spend a second with. So it’s likely that Mr. Cheater doesn’t want to hang with his new woman’s pals.
Jory: What if his wife was horrible and didn’t show him any love and…and…she…
Sam: I can see your brain working.
Jory: Yeah, fine.
Sam: If he was miserable, then he asks his wife for a divorce. And she’s upset and heart-broken, but it’s clean. It’s done and over, and then, and only then, does he date.
Jory: Agreed.
Sam: When you cheat, you’re not just cheating on the person in your life—you’re cheating on your whole life.
Jory: Your kids.
Sam: Exactly. Your folks, the other person’s folks, I mean, everyone has to reevaluate the person they thought you were versus the person you turned out to be. And yeah, it sucks. This guy, he’s had the same group of people in his corner since forever, but it’s no one else’s fault but his that he doesn’t have that anymore.
Jory: Because if he broke it off clean, they would have to be doing what they’re trying to do now.
Sam: Yeah.
Jory: You look sad.
Sam: Because it’s sad. He’s losing, not just full-time with his kids—which I don’t know how people even do, that shit would kill me—but he’s losing the support system of his friends. You’re talking about years of calling the same people to help you move and watch your dog when you go out of town and vacation with and barbecue with. I mean, your friends come and bring food with them to the house after a funeral. This is your community. And divorce changes that, you have to navigate it, but cheating—that’s a whole other ballgame.
Jory: So you’re recommending they just ditch their buddy.
Sam: I think as hard as it is…yeah. They cut ties with him. And not with his kids, because the wife will keep the kids in the lives of his friends, but with him—they have to.
Jory: I don’t think it’s that cut and dry. I still think they need to sit down and talk and see what everyone is willing to give.
Sam: I disagree. They should choose the wife.
Jory: All right. Let’s say Dane cheats on Aja—
Sam: Never happen, my friend.
Jory: Yes, I know. I’m saying, what if.
Sam: That’s just—pick someone else.
Jory: No.
Sam: Why?
Jory: Because if Dane cheated on Aja, he’s still my brother. We would have both of them, Dane and Aja, in our lives. Always.
Sam: Yeah, but it could never—it’s not possible to even wrap your brain around. Why on earth would Dane cheat on Aja when she’s brilliant and funny and beautiful and—
Jory: You’re getting way too worked up about this.
Sam: Because cheating makes me crazy! It’s so stupid. If you want to fuck around, get a goddamn divorce! Look at all the people over the years who have been killed, cheaters and the people who got cheated on, just because someone didn’t have the balls to ask for a divorce!
Jory: Sam—
Sam: That stupid movie you just made me watch about the woman who framed her husband for her own murder instead of just divorcing his cheating ass, and she ends up killing Doogie and—
Jory: I think you’re mixing up your—
Sam: Can you actually imagine any of our friends cheating?
Jory: No. But I could imagine some of them getting divorced.
Sam: You could? Really? Who?