Total pages in book: 80
Estimated words: 78466 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 392(@200wpm)___ 314(@250wpm)___ 262(@300wpm)
Estimated words: 78466 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 392(@200wpm)___ 314(@250wpm)___ 262(@300wpm)
Sam: Digital is something easy that you can control and is a way to assert parental authority without having to beat anyone.
Jory: Sam!
Sam: What? It is. Your people may be pissed at you, but they’ve sustained no bodily injuries.
Jory: Ohmygod.
Sam: I control the information highway in and out of my castle.
Jory: I’m surprised you didn’t laugh manically at the—oh no…there it is.
Sam: Two passwords is the only way to go. Now come here, the king wants a kiss.
Jory: I think you’ve taken this castle thing a bit…too…
Sam: You were saying?
Jory: Don’t gloat. It’s not a good look on you.
DEAR JORY:
Out of the blue, my husband’s ex is now working with him. I don’t like it, I’m not comfortable, but I also don’t want my husband to think I don’t trust him. I do trust him. I don’t trust her. What should I do?
Jory: The first thing you need to do is to have a sit-down with your husband and share with him how you’re feeling. Second—
Sam: So this is a do-as-I-say-and-not-as-I-do thing, huh?
Jory: What are you talking about?
Sam: I mean that you took on Aaron Sutter as a client without asking me.
Jory: What? When?
Sam: Years ago when we got back from Hawai’i, you took Aaron Sutter on as a client without even talking to me about it, and this was right after he hit on you before I got to the resort.
Jory: I—you never told me that bothered you.
Sam: There I was, feeling like he could be a better provider, and—
Jory: Are you serious? It’s Aaron!
Sam: Don’t sound so indignant, because yeah, now it’s Aaron, who I like and who I have no problem with because I can see with my own eyes how he looks at his husband. But back then, before there was a Duncan in his life—I didn’t like it.
Jory: I didn’t know.
Sam: You should have asked.
Jory: You’re right.
Sam: The worst part was that you didn’t think twice about it.
Jory: No, I didn’t, and my only response is because I knew he was different.
Sam: But I had no idea.
Jory: Okay.
Sam: Just because you know something, doesn’t mean I do unless you tell me.
Jory: Yes.
Sam: And then, down the road, you took a van from him.
Jory: I’m so sorry. It never occurred to me that it would bother you, because I knew me, right? I knew what I would and wouldn’t do. You’re the only man I see.
Sam: Yes, I know that. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t bother me. He’s a rich handsome man who could have made your life a lot easier.
Jory: You think Aaron is handsome?
Sam: Oh for crissakes, how did I know that you were gonna fixate on that?
Jory: I just—I had no idea you thought Aaron Sutter was so hot.
Sam: When did I—just…listen. This is exactly what I’m talking about, and this right here illustrates perfectly the question that’s being posed to you.
Jory: Like on a scale of one to ten, would you say that—
Sam: So help me God if you don’t stop—
Jory: Just gimme a number.
Sam: The answer to the question is that you talk to your spouse, and if it bugs them, you try and change your working situation, and if that’s not possible, then you invite the ex and your current significant other to share a meal—include the new person in their life as well—and you all sit down and talk and keep the air clear so nobody has any misgivings or issues. Transparency is best in all things except clothing.
Jory: You’re right.
Sam: How did that feel coming out of your mouth?
Jory: Horrible.
Sam: I bet.
Jory: So, for the record, I didn’t think all those years ago, and I am sorry.
Sam: Since I forgave you a long time ago, I accept your apology. And time has proven what a good man Aaron Sutter is.
Jory: And he loves our kids.
Sam: He does. Yes.
Jory: But mostly, he worships Duncan. It’s really kind of gross.
Sam: Agreed.
Jory: But you’re right, in answer to the question, try to change first, talk second.
Sam: It’s for the best.
DEAR JORY:
Ever since college I have had these two great friends. When I married my husband, both of them were already married to amazing women. It was a blessing that all our spouses got along and that we gelled with all of them. It was perfect. We were all perfect together as we lived through losing parents, becoming parents, and all the many milestones as a group. What I didn’t know was that one of my friends was cheating on his wife. The thing is, though, that he didn’t just pick anyone to fool around with, he fell in love. So now we have my buddy bringing his fiancée, soon-to-be second wife to dinner, and his ex-wife bringing a new guy to game night. It’s been crazy. The formerly married couple hates each other now as they deal with the effect of their divorce on their kids and separating property and time with us. The four of us are attempting to navigate the new situation, but it’s taking its toll. I would appreciate any insight you might have.